Relationship Status: long term partner and some special friends
Sexual Orientation: pansexual - I love people, gender irrelevant.
Occupation: psychology student
Children: no thank you!
Pets: I have a pet lesbian panther, if that counts? I'm planning on getting some fishies though. :D
Siblings: One half brother by my Dad, Sam, 13 and a half sister, Megan, 8 and half brother, Owen, 2 by my Mum.
Interests: egl (obviously!), sewing, drawing, reading - particularly dark non-fiction, modelling, shopping...
Lolita style: I started kodona, but am starting to get into the darker, more aristo side. Mind you, that may be influenced not wanting to wear short trousers in winter!
Favourite Lolita brand: I like Moi-même-Moitié and Atelier Boz most, but I do have a soft spot for Baby the Stars Shine Bright. Partly because my first brand item was a black cutsew by them which I still love wearing, and I fit their tops quite well.
Least favourite Lolita brand: I don't really like the punk styles any more, so h.NAOTO aren't really my bag, but I also think Angelic Pretty is overrated, but that's mainly because their too sweet for me. I tried sweet last summer, and although I've been told otherwise, I think I suit the darker styles better.
How long have you been into the fashion? I started being interested around 5/6 years ago, but didn't start wearing it in any real way until I started university in 2007. Though, funnily enough, I've only actually worn it to lectures a handful of times - frills are too much for a 9am lecture on social cognition and the social psychology of the self! (or a 1pm lecture on the neuroanatomy of vision for that matter!)
Do you dress in the style or admire it? I dress in the style as much as I can. It's impractical for university, but I'd like to find a way of incorporating it into my everyday dress so that I can wear it more often. I wear it when I go out to meets, parties and clubs and sometimes if I have a day where I feel like dressing up. I tend to have very good reactions to it when I go to goth nights, however I actually got a positive reaction to a mainly Moitié ensemble at an 80s themed club!
List 3 words to describe yourself:
(I have the kanji for those down the top of my spine ^^)
List 3 interesting/random things about you:
1. I'm a model, and although I don't make a living out of it, I do work at a professional level and will be featuring in two photography books, and at least three exhibitions this year.
I mainly mode just for the fun of it, but I do get paid well enough that a shoot a month is better than getting a Saturday job! However, it's far less stable and the work is like buses.
2. I am a hopeless romantic, and a good cook. Despite my hedonistic
Baking is my favourite thing, particularly interestingly flavoured biscuits and cakes. My favourite creations are early grey with lady grey icing, rose with vanilla icing and absinthe with absinthe icing which all work well for biscuits and cakes. I also like miso and walnut biscuits for a savoury alternative.
I have to limit to once a month if/when I have somewhere to take them to, otherwise I just eat them all myself! That said, I made three bread and butter puddings last night! One apricot and raisin, one pomegranate and mixed fruit and one absinthe! We had bread that needed using... ^^;
3. I am a competent rigger of Japanese style ropework (shibari) and can do self-suspensions. I actually have a suspension point in my studio, and probably about a thousand feet of rope in the house! Not all in one length though, some of it's to sell at the workshops my partner and I do.
I do rope shows, mainly the feet of the floor type, but my aim is to get proficient enough in my work to do a solo self suspension show.
List 3 things you look for in a friend:
1. open mindedness
3. a good
5 Favourite Bands/Artist/s:
3. The Smiths
4. Marilyn Manson
5. David Bowie
5 Favourite Movies:
1. The Nightmare Before Christmas
2. Pulp Fiction
3. A Clockwork Orange
4. Party Monster
5. Rocky Horror Picture Show
5 Favourite TV Shows:
(... I don't really watch much TV)
5 Favourite Books:
1. Alice's Adventures in Wonderland
2. The Lucifer Effect
3. Macho Sluts
4. Party Monster
5. The Plucker
Why do you think people would enjoy doing lolita-esque things/going to meet ups with you?
I've been told that I make good company!
I have lots of stories to tell, an ability to listen and am very open-minded. I like serious conversation but I also have a childish side that's closer to about 5 and a half. Therefore, conversations that centre around sex, drugs and naughty stuff are great too! ^^;
I will also feed you biscuits and cake.
Tell us about your life and what you want to do with it:
My life is pretty fabulous right now. I'm a student, and in my first year, so have enough work to keep me busy but enough free time to relax. I'm planning on becoming a psychologist, and I'm looking forward to getting my Phd. I have a loving, supportive partner with a relationship dynamic of an x-rated yaoi and I don't want that ever to change. I've been living in Cambridge for a year and a half and don't think that there's anywhere else I'd want to be, at least not for a while yet.
If you could swap lives with a person for a week, who would it be and why?
If I was being serious, and could do this in retrospect, I might opt for someone like Hitler as it would be amazing to find out what was actually going on in his head. Though if I did I would be worried about the butterfly effect - my great grandparents met in the war for starters - and even the smallest change would probably mess that up, if not the subsequent meetings on my ancestors and those of everyone I know and love. So maybe I'll stick with something safer, like Johnny Depp, because he's awesome. (or possibly Vanessa Chantal Paradis, same reason)
Make up your own question and answer it:
Who do you look up to and why? (aka. stereotypical Oscar winner's speech)
- My immediate family, as much as they don't like me at the moment, had a huge influence on who I am. I look up to my dad, who was bullied far worse than I was at school, but is now a manager and my fashion icon for casual clothes.
- I look up to my mum, who had me very young, but kept me, brought me up on my own, supported my through my worst times and taught me more about myself than anyone else.
- I look up to my dad's parents, who defied everyone just by being together as my granddad is black and my grandma is white. My Grandma also survived being forced into a convent for getting pregnant with her first child.
- I look up to two of my closest friends, who are both survivors of sexual abuse, but have stayed strong and are managing to rebuild their lives. The friends who have looked after me through things from getting stuck in my garden up to getting stuck in the middle of nowhere to getting stuck in a dieting rut!
- I look up to my A level psychology teacher, who aside from being the best teacher I ever had, was the only academic I've been taught by who understood my potential but also worked how the way my life at the time was preventing me from achieving it and made special provisions to get me through my time in 6th form.
- I look up to Sigmund Freud, who stood by his controversial theories behind psychology and sexuality even when the who scientific world was (and to some extent still is) laughing at him. I think that without him psychology as we know it today wouldn't exist. I don't agree entirely with his theories, and I am unimpressed with the fact he didn't defend his original seduction theory - the idea that hysteria is caused by childhood sexual abuse. Though, all that aside, his 'songs of praise' on cocaine are remarkably entertaining.
- Woe to you, my Princess, when I come. I will kiss you quite red and feed you till you are plump. And if you are forward you shall see who is the stronger, a gentle little girl who doesn't eat enough or a big strong man who has cocaine in his body...
- I look up to Dr. Phillip Zimbardo, another controversial psychologist who is famous for setting up a mock prison in which normal sane men became sadists and victims depending on whether they were set the role or prisoner or guard. He obviously didn't mean this abuse to happen, it wasn't expected that normal sane men would be capable of those things. His research has changed the way that prisons are run, and has been used to provide some insight and explanation into things like the atrocities of abu ghraib.
Post 1 or more pictures of yourself here.
And one in my usual,
How did you find this community and why did you decide to join
I found it through profile hopping, but I can't remember who's.